My mother always taught me that it was the person who mattered. Our society views the ideal woman in light of gender roles.

The ideal woman is feminine — docile, innocent, yet not naive; submissive, yet strong and attractive.

These relationships were no different than those in my racial category except for one dirty little issue: race.

Most of these relationships did not succeed or fail because of race, but it was disturbing to me that race and the stereotypes attached to them were ever an issue in the first place.

lack women are the least likely to marry outside of their race or get married at all, according to the latest census data. I’m a black woman who has dated outside of her race extensively.

It follows that they are also the least likely to date outside of their race. Not only that, but my only serious relationship has been with a man outside of my race.

It’s time to have an honest, open discussion about interracial relationships.

No, I don’t mean gabbing about the latest drama between Olivia and Fitz.

In a nutshell, Scott said that she feels betrayed when black men partner with white women because white women have been placed on pedestals since slavery, while black women were denigrated.

S., finds that an overwhelming majority of Millennials, regardless of race, say they would be fine with a family member’s marriage to someone of a different racial or ethnic group.

Asked about particular groups to which they do not belong, Millennials are about equally accepting of marriage to someone in any of the groups tested: Roughly nine-in-ten say they would be fine with a family member’s marriage to an African American (88%), a Hispanic American (91%), an Asian American (93%) or a white American (92%).

Black women, however, are stereotyped as being loud, aggressive, angry and bitter. And they are too often judged as other women derogatorily are — as a b****, and the term “black” b**** is used in that case.

And let’s face it, black women are judged against the European standards of beauty by which our society undeniably still abides. If a black woman is angry, it is not assumed that she is just a woman who is experiencing the emotion of anger in the moment. Black women are associated with strength, for they are not often seen as nothing more than a strong “black” woman. In the media, we often see black women portrayed as single mothers and matriarchal in nature.